To receive our matchmaking service, you opt in to become a Client. That means we proactively search for you and do different rounds of searching over time. We provide curated match options until we land on the right person. This route gives you way more match options than the Candidate route, as we can present anyone we see fit - including non-paying members from our network and through partner networks (many of them coming from our proactive recruiting). When you're a Client, we can do outreach to partners to see who they have, ask our network of personal contacts, and even recruit candidates on social media. Clients also receive feedback from each first date they go on through DateSpot. On average, you'll get 12 Recommended Dates in a year, but it depends on who you are and your search criteria.

The Candidate route is completely passive - we do not proactively search for you. Your match pool is small as it's only the members willing to pay for matches, whether they come from DateSpot or partner matchmakers. The quality of the matches may be less as we're focused on what the Client is looking for that may match your search enough, but everyone's search is a little aspirational, so you might be "the catch" more for them. You will never pay, but being a Candidate is not recommended if finding love is a priority, since statistically you'll get 1-2 match options per year and success is generally not found with the first pairing.

We hope you will become a Client so we can search for you, but we are happy to allow anyone to join and be eligible for matches, no matter what their background or income.

For Candidates, we don’t have a specific time for any contact. Any match options are determined by the needs of each matchmaking client and whether you meet their preferences.

For Clients, we contact you after you sign up to send you the Client Handbook about the process, dating tips and resources. We'll also see if you're interested in doing a 45 min. video deep-dive. Generally, we present a Recommended Date within one month, although it totally depends on your unique search. We like to set up a check-in phone call after two months to discuss the search and how to iterate from there if needed.

If you work with one matchmaking company, you're limited to their specific location and where they service. With DateSpot, we expand the possibilities though the entire network of matchmaking companies that have clients all over, making geography irrelevant. We work effectively with clients all across the U.S., and even internationally.

If you live in a small town and want local matches only, DateSpot is a great solution vs. traditional matchmaking companies too as you only pay for an intro.

If you live outside the U.S., feel free to email support@datespot.love for a recommendation to another matchmaking company if you want more proactive, dedicated service.

The system purposely will only allow you to continue beyond The Basics section once you have properly entered your location. The location field is a bit tricky as you need to start typing in your city, and then select it from the drop-down in order for it to save correctly. It can take up to 5 seconds for the drop-down menu to appear. Once your location is properly entered, the button to continue will be activated.

Yes, definitely! We have many LGBTQ+ members. We actually get a lot of referrals of people in the community from other matchmakers who do not service them due to a lack of appropriate candidates.

Also, our partnerships with LGBTQ+ focused matchmaking companies allows us to match gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans, queer, and other individuals in a unique way - without paying the large amounts needed to work with them as a client. If you end up wanting more match options than what we deliver, we can refer you to a more specialized company that we recommend.

That is so kind of you to think about paying for your child, sibling, or parent! We absolutely do gift memberships, where you pay for each mutual match for someone else. There is nothing to pay upfront. Learn more here. Thank you from both us and them!
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