Finally, Matchmaking For the ENM Community
If you don't want to fall into the traditional boxes of marriage and monogamy, DateSpot can help.
We find reliable, compatible partners who are flexible for open or closed group relationships - and we do it in a surprisingly affordable way.
What Is DateSpot?
DateSpot is a revolutionary yet affordable, pay-per-match matchmaking company that works with people of all types. Yes, including you.
Traditional matchmaking companies don't take on ENM clients because their networks cater only to monogamous individuals, so they can't justify their normal rates or deliver enough candidates.
DateSpot is different. We have a wide network of people interested in finding a primary or secondary partner for a long-term open relationship.
DateSpot is the easy way to find other open-minded people - whether it's for a season or for life.
Benefits of Matchmaking
Common Goal
We can suss out what people really think & do to pair you with the right match(es).
Compatibility
Professionals assess long-term compatibility across a ton of dimensions.
Privacy
Members can't access each other, and we selectively send profiles for approval.
Targeting
We can identify people who aren't yet into ENM but are open to exploring it.
Time Saving
Online dating and meeting people out is time-consuming - and you're busy.
Location Expansion
Apps center around one location, while we make expansion to other areas easy.
Who Is Matching Me?
DateSpot's Founder, Carla Swiryn, has been a professional matchmaker since 2014 and started the company in 2019.
She was born and raised in the San Francisco Bay Area - a place of openness and people pushing the boundaries of the norm - and lives there now.
She is happy to listen to your story and desires to help you reach your relationship goals.
Relationship Types
We do work with many people who want long-term monogamy, but we're completely inclusive and accept people who want any open, honest & equitable relationship type:
- Polyamory
- Open relationship
- Equal triad
- ENM marriage
- Polyfidelity
- Relationship anarchy
- Swinging couple
- Spouse open to a fling
- Closed V
Testimonials
I need a woman to be open-minded sexually, at least somewhat kinky, and open to the idea of being with others if we don't fulfill all our needs. DateSpot is proactively targeting candidates in a creative way for me that I wouldn't be able to do myself.
I'm so happy that DateSpot is accepting of people who don't fit into the traditional relationship structures and can focus on them.
I am non-monogamous, but I'm looking for someone to be very focused on and have children with. The logistics of finding a primary partner suitable for me are complicated. I love how DateSpot makes it easier and does that searching for me.
Sourcing Techniques
Personal Network
Carla has a network of poly friends and acquaintances- Online Groups
Contacting people in related Facebook groups - Matchmaking Partners
Reaching out to relevant companies and social clubs - Friend Referrals
Members refer friends they know could use help - Matchmaker Referrals
Other companies send us folks they don't service - Member Connections
We can send your profile to leverage their networks
Pricing
- Eligible to Meet Anyone We See Fit
- Dedicated Proactive Search
- Video Call Vetting or ID Checks
- Background Checks By Request
- 2 Month Check-In Call
- Outreach To Partner Network
- Exclusive Resource Library PDFs
- Discounts on Optional Partner Services (Photo Shoots, Styling, Coaching etc.)
ENM Resources
Want to learn more about ethical non-monogamy?
Check out this helpful info.
Books
Polysecure & The Polysecure Workbook (Bundle)
The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, & Other Freedoms in Sex & Love
More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory
Opening Up: A Guide to Creating & Sustaining Open Relationships
Podcasts & Videos
Podcasts:
Multiamory podcast
Polyamory Weekly podcast
YouTube Channels:
Multiamory
Sexplanations
Deep Dive Video Call
If you'd like to work with us, let's talk about your search to get to know you and what you're looking for so we can make the best matches.
You'll meet with a DateSpot Matchmaker over a 45 minute video call for $299.
You can either create your account and then book the required call, or book the call first.
We look forward to talking soon!