Lots of reasons! To name some:

1. Matchmakers get a ton of information about each person so they can effectively match people based on a wide variety of dimensions, increasing your chance of a compatible match that will last.
2. Matchmakers can vet the candidates to make sure they look like their photos.
3. Matchmakers generally work with successful professionals. If you're meeting a client, you know they're a driven, self-sufficient individual ready for commitment with the right partner.
4. Your profile remains private, visible only to the matchmakers. This means you can be really open and honest about what you really think and do - and so would others.
5. Matchmakers can work well with people who are open to areas outside of their own city.
6. When hiring a matchmaker, you can learn what someone really thinks about you after a first date. There would be no misreading signals and you have the ability to be conscious of their feedback - and save you more time in next steps.

1. Dating sites don't have an important personal touch where someone gets a human understanding of both people and uses their experience and intuition in addition to data.
2. We collect way more info about people, allowing for you to see if there's a long term fit much faster than meeting people through any other avenue.
3. The apps also want to provide you with as many matches as possible to satiate the never-ending appetite of most users. With matchmaking, it's about disrupting that mentality by focusing on lower quantity and higher quality to give each person a real shot.
4. If you think you're seeing everyone online, you're not. Many people don't do online dating - or aren't on the apps when you are.

Traditional matchmaking companies lock you into paying in exchange for a limited service timeframe or a number of matches they are required to fulfill. We know that everyone's search is challenging and with requiring mutual interest for an intro, we like to see how your search goes. We work with you until you're successfully matched, with dedicated support for 6 months and then if you're not successful by then, passive matching beyond that. We don't hold to any quotas that can lead to poor quality pairings and pressure and disappointment on both sides.

We also have an entire network of matchmaking companies utilizing our platform which expands your match possibilities beyond what any one company can do.

First we do a video deep-dive call. Within 5 business days of that call we'll send your sharable profile, which you approve. We then begin outreach. We do multiple rounds of searches, starting with the top criteria and preferences first, and then expand from there. There is no set timeline as each person's search is so unique and the amount of actual appropriate options vary. But generally, we present an initial Recommended Date within one month.

We set up a check-in phone call after two months to discuss the search and how to iterate from there if needed. That is often a great time to reach out to partner matchmakers and expand to secondary preferences if we haven't already.

If you work with one matchmaking company, you're limited to their specific location and where they service. With DateSpot, we expand the possibilities though the entire network of matchmaking companies that have clients all over, making geography irrelevant. We work effectively with clients all across the U.S..

We accept clients internationally as well. You should be open to matches in the U.S. or able to relocate yourself there to expect any match options with DateSpot members. Some of our partner matchmakers are outside the U.S. and may request you for their members. Feel free to email support@datespot.love for a recommendation to another matchmaking company if you want proactive dedicated service outside the U.S..

We do not include background checks with the regular match fee in order to keep costs as low as possible for people, since many people do not require a background check.

However, we do offer background checks as an add-on service. When there's mutual interest in meeting, you can opt for a check we do through BeenVerified for $99. We review the results, which cover criminal history, bankruptcies, career history, social media, and more. You can pay for the check before you make a final decision about meeting the person.

As people generally do not want to share their social security numbers, we do checks without them. This means that we can generally hone in on the right person but cannot guarantee it if it's a common name. There is no refund of the fee as searching for the person still requires a lot of our time. But in most cases we will identify the one individual.

We do not share the report to maintain confidentiality that most people prefer when matchmaking for safety and privacy. Once you've paid for a background check, we will report back with our findings within two business days.

The information contained in any report and what we relay necessarily 100% accurate, complete or up to date, especially concerning such sensitive items as criminal history, relatives, mortgages and liens. The data comes from a wide variety of sources through BeenVerified, but some municipalities and jurisdictions are slow to report and digitize their data.

With DateSpot member-to-member matching, no. Physical attraction is an important part of a relationship and we believe there needs to be a baseline for a relationship to get off the ground. We send Recommended Dates to our members that include a ton of info about the potential match as well as multiple photos.

That said, many of our partner matchmaking companies do blind dates - either always or sometimes based on the client's preference or package. If you're trying to get the most amount of match options, we suggest selecting that you're open to blind dates when asked in your account. If you even prefer blind dates, let us know and we can prioritize these connections.

Each time we reach out about a particular match opportunity, we like to disclose whether it would be a blind date or not as we want to set expectations correctly. You're always able to say yes or no, or ask us if we don't mention it.

Throughout her matchmaking career, DateSpot's founder has successfully matched up dozens of couples who have gotten married. Many others were together after one year, so could still be together as far as she knows! Some people contacted her years later thanking her for her efforts and the impact she has had in their lives.

Some couples who met through DateSpot are already married, and there are now DateSpot babies from multiple families! Our founder was thrilled to even officiate a wedding for one of these couples in 2022 in Northern CA.

On top of our major successes, we also have a very strong date satisfaction rate. 81% members who go on a first date with another DateSpot member want to continue seeing them.

We hope you'll be our next success story and invite us to your wedding!

While we're based in the U.S. and the vast majority of our members are there, our members are global. They span a wide range in demographics, including age, ethnicity, religion, and lifestyle.

Our youngest members are 18 and there is no cap on the upper limit. Our youngest Client so far has been 21 and oldest has been 92 - quite a range!

The gender ratio across our database is about evenly split between men and women (and we do offer an option to say whether your gender identify doesn't fit into one of those options).

Inclusion is one of our core values. We allow everyone to join the database, and we think there is a “lid for every pot.”

The only exceptions for who we would never match would be people in a relationship seeking infidelity (where the other person believes the relationship is monogamous), men seeking polygamy (multiple wives), or anyone who violates our code of conduct or disrespects people.

Yes, definitely! We have many LGBTQ+ members. We actually get a lot of referrals of people in the community from other matchmakers who do not service them due to a lack of appropriate candidates in their own networks.

Also, our partnerships with LGBTQ+ focused matchmaking companies allows us to match gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans, queer, and other individuals in a unique way - without paying the large amounts needed to work with them as a client. If you end up wanting more match options than what we deliver, we can refer you to a more specialized company that we recommend.

We also are conscious of non-binary gender options and don't force people to choose the traditional "male" or "female" options. This also makes matching through us easier than with traditional matchmaking companies.

Many people into ENM (ethical non-monogamy or polyamory as a variation) request matchmaking services as the options for them are limited and they may prefer privacy over being "out there" on the few apps there are. Some people want relationships that are "monogamish", where there is a primary partner desired but there is the mutual ability to have experiences with others.

If you're into ethnical non-monogamy or considering it, as long as you are interested in equal, honest, open, and loving relationships, we are happy to accept and match you. We have a solid community and strong partners who specialize in this and can leverage them for matches at a less expensive rate than if you were a client of theirs directly. Visit our ENM matchmaking page and sign up today.

We sometimes meet them, but we always verify them in some way. With DateSpot member-to-member matching, we may have done a video call with someone. If we have not, we at least do an ID verification check. When we send a profile to a Client, we include whether we have met the match already. If we have not, you can let us know if you want us to do a video call in order to make a decision.

As for any intros with partner matchmaker clients that you do not pay for, we do not meet them and do not necessarily vouch for those pairings. Though we may reject any particular request, they are at the discretion of the partner matchmaker.

We take your privacy very seriously.

Only the DateSpot team and our partner matchmakers can see your account. That should put you at ease that you don't have to craft witty responses, and you can be completely honest.

Not just anyone can access the database. Our partner matchmakers in the DateSpot network have been rigorously screened to ensure they are reputable professionals in the industry.

Members cannot view each other's accounts. Instead, we write individual profiles in a Google doc, merging info from your account, any emails, a consultation if applicable, and our own impressions of the person. By default, the Google doc is open to anyone who has the link, because we only share it selectively. If you choose to have it set privately to only those with specific access, we can accommodate that.

Also, if you prefer total privacy without photos of yourself shown to other members, we can arrange blind dates with other members and partner clients who are open to blind dates.

We do not share or sell your information to any marketing lists.

If you choose to purchase a partner service (photo shoot, styling, or relationship advising), we may pass along some info and/or photos to facilitate and get you the best results.

Please contact support@datespot.love if you have any questions or concerns about privacy.

That is so kind of you to think about paying for your child, sibling, or parent! We absolutely do gift memberships, where you pay for each mutual match for someone else. There is just a $299 fee upfront for the video call.

Learn more here. Thank you from both us and them!

If you're in an exclusive relationship but not yet engaged or married, it's a better option to pause your account so that we can check in about your status in the future if there's an identified match. To do this, log in, and in the first profile field you can edit (under DateSpot History) change Account Status from "Active" to "Paused".

But if you're married, engaged, or otherwise never want to hear from us again, you can deactivate your account by going to Settings > Deactivate My Profile. If you want to permanently delete your account so that you can never log back in, you can request deletion by changing your profile Account Status to "Delete" and we'll delete your account ASAP. Alternatively, you can send the request to support@datespot.love.
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Know that if you cancel, we won’t be contacting any matchmaking companies that have already paid to connect with you and so have your email and account info. You would have known and approved any of these and received intros to them, so you'll know who to contact if you want them to remove you there as well.

We hope that eventually you deactivate your account because you're successfully matched up!

Yes, we do! If you're not ready for dedicated matchmaking, you're welcome to join our passive free pool of Candidates. That makes you eligible for the occasional match as we search for our Clients. There is no cost, ever.

However, know that it is rare that we contact Candidates due to the large number of members, and how matchmakers and members alike typically want matches to have some "skin in the game" to demonstrate both financial fitness and some level of commitment.

And while we aim for alignment of preferences as much as possible, we're more focused on our client wants and needs. Everyone's search is a little aspirational, so you might be "the catch" more for them.

Feel free to view the comparison chart on the Candidate page.